Journey to Julia Video


James 1:27 – “Religion that is pure and undefiled before God and the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction”

Friday, December 17, 2010

Trip #2

Hello, everyone.  Sorry for the silence during the past couple of days.   Tom and I arrived home on Tuesday night.  Wow, it was great to see our children.  We had missed them so much.  It was great to be back in America as well.  We are so blessed in our country.

The past couple of days have been a whirlwind of getting ready for Trip #2.  Tom and our oldest son will be returning to bring Julia home.  Our son (who is 15 years old) is so excited about this trip and can't wait to meet his new little sister.

Grandma and Grandpa have returned to the warmth of Florida.  We are so grateful for the help they gave us while we were away.

Tom & I want to thank all of the people who have helped us during this adoption journey.  We have been blessed with financial support, prayers, and friends & family helping out with the care of our children at home.  We know that all of the help has made it possible for us to bring Julia home.  Thank you!

So, once Tom and Caleb are back in Julia's country, I'm sure they will be updating the blog often.  We will miss them on Christmas, but we know they are bringing home such a beautiful gift with them, Julia.

Please join us in praying for all of families that will be apart this Christmas for many different reasons.  Also, please pray for all the children around the world who wait for a family.  Maybe by next Christmas they will be home with their new Forever Families.

Sunday, December 12, 2010

On the way home

We're back in the capital after a quick and uneventful train ride.  We're back in the same apartment we stayed in our first night in country, so things are looking comfortingly familiar.

Here is a shot of the difficult parting at the last visit with Julia before we left.


In one of our last walks around the local city it was snowing heavily on Saturday afternoon.  Saturday is the day local brides get their pictures taken in the local parks.  Even when it is freezing out!

From Adoption Trip 1

This spot kept reminding us of the scene in "Mary Poppins" where they all hop into the chalk paintings in the park.



This footbridge is a popular place for wedding shots, when it is not covered with ice that is.


The strangest thing was watching brides smoking and spitting while waiting for their pictures.  Interesting!

So tomorrow we make a quick stop by the US embassy to sign some papers and then first thing Tuesday we fly for home.  America - here we come!

Friday, December 10, 2010

Court Day - Part 2 - two heart attacks and a decision

Ok - it's Friday night over here, and we already told you the big news earlier in the day.  The way the court day happened was almost as interesting as the outcome.

Our appointment was for 11am.  We were picked up in the city at 10am because the driver also had to bring a couple other officials needed for the adoption hearing to the courthouse.  As we sped out of the city at around 65-70 miles per hour, a policeman on the side of the road motions for us to pull over.  The driver nearly locks up the brakes on the highway, slides off the pavement and through a few potholes.  We start wondering if this whole altercation is going to make us miss our court appointment.  We find out later it was a dispute over speed limits, and they claim we were at least 10 kilometers per hour under the published speed limit and the police are just harassing them. That was heart attack number one.

The courthouse is a long two story brick building in the middle of the countryside.  There are always cars and people swarming all around it like you would not believe.  In all prior visits, we have never been allowed inside.  As we enter the building there is a metal detector active that you have to walk through and a security guard standing by.  Everyone sets it off, but no one is stopped or examined.  Interesting.

We are led to a waiting area in the upstairs hallway.  All doors on the hallway are shut at all times, but people come in and out of each door about once every 30 seconds.  It all appears quite comical when you can't read any of the signs and have no idea what is going on.  We wait for a while and the facilitator briefs us on some questions we may get and how the hearing will proceed.  Shortly all our party has arrived but we have not been called yet.  It's about noon when our name is eventually called.  We enter the courtroom, but still no judge.  We wait for another 10-15 minutes and then he appears.  He reads the introductory papers on the case, and then calls a five minute recess.  Hmmm.  The interpreter politely tells us "no one knows what is going on".  Ok - that clarifies things.  Eventually the judge returns and proceeds to read through a number of documents and recommendations regarding this adoption from the orphanage, local administration and state department.  Everyone is giving us a green light.  We are called to answer some basic questions - name, date of birth, address, occupation and why we are adopting this child.  The judge calls a fifteen minute recess to issue a decision in the case.

Snow is falling heavily outside the window as we wait for the judge and his two assistants/witnesses to return. Everyone makes small talk about the weather and what it is like where we come from.  We actually get to talk to our facilitator more then we have since we have been here about her adoption work and the orphanage in general.  Then the three men return and begin to read their official decision.  No big deal, right?  This is when heart attack number two begins.

As the judge reads the first couple paragraphs our facilitator's jaw drops, she sighs loudly and shakes her head.  We look at her eyes for some sign this is going to be ok.  Nothing but a look of fear and confusion.  In a few minutes that felt like a few years I start playing back in my head.  "What could we have possibly done to cause this judge to deny or delay this adoption?"  No answers come.  He continues to read and the courtroom is dead silent.

Then our facilitator's face begins to relax.  She translates - "Child's new name will be Julia Mary,...  this petition is approved,...".  A wave of relief washes over us.  We're done.  Julia will be our daughter if nothing adverse happens during the ten day waiting period.

What was the fear and confusion about?  Communication problems.  The judge is speaking Ukrainian.  Our facilitator's primary language is Russian.  She is struggling to convey it all in English for us.  She thought he was saying no to our adoption petition, but he was speaking about something else.  The joys of international adoption.

Sorry for the long story, but it demonstrates what international adoption is really like.  It is long, complex and confusing, and at every moment it hangs on many people doing the right thing.  Any misstep or miscommunication along the way can halt things temporarily or permanently.  In that moment everything hung on that judge believing that it was in this little girl's best interest to move across the sea to a new life with a new family in a foreign culture.  Thank God he did.  The administration even said we are "very good people".

The courtroom was strictly business.  No teary pictures with the judge or anything.  A couple quick hand shakes and congratulations.  Here are some smiles outside the courtroom afterward.


So another major step is behind us.  We got to spend the evening with Julia and celebrate this little moment.


See her big smile at the end?  We think that is because she knows court is over.  ;-)

Stay tuned for the trip home and the beginning of Trip 2 to bring Julia back to America.

Julia Mary has a new family



In the words of Christian musician Matthew West, there's one less lonely orphan in the world tonight.


We passed court today around 1:15pm local time! We'll tell you the whole hilarious (and scary) story of how it happened later today after we go see the little angel. For now, know how relieved and grateful we are to be through this major step of the adoption process.

Wednesday, December 8, 2010

Stacking cups - the next generation

Our assigned visiting time at the orphanage is normally 10am-Noon.  And we are almost always late because of the never ending "DOC-u-mehnts" that have to be delivered here there and everywhere and signed, which our driver usually does on the way to the orphanage because the courthouse is nearby.  So when get there, sometimes we have to wait for them to "prepare" Jenny.  Sometimes she is sitting waiting in our usual meeting place for us.  Today we were close to on time, and she was all ready sitting there waiting for us.

We walk in the door and start greeting her with her birth name and nicknames as we usually do, and she starts laughing, babbling and reaching up to us as if to say "where have you been - welcome back".  We actually had just been there at 6pm last night.  The shouts of welcome were not momentary.  It went on for about five minutes.  All the nurses were coming in to see what she was making the fuss about, and giggling about the way she had latched onto her Mama.  If you want to see what she looks like going on at a great rate, here is a new video from today after she proudly climbed up into a nearby office chair and sat herself down.


Today was sort of an early Christmas for Jenny.  We were pretty sick of the toys we had brought for her and played with for the last eleven visits, so Tom hiked across town after our visit last night and picked up a couple little surprises.  The main one, is a combination ball, stacking bowls thing that you can play all kinds of games with.  This video doesn't quite do it justice, but she loved it and played with it for quite a while on her own.  The whole set nests inside itself with a little yellow ball with a jingle bell inside in the center.  It reminds us of the Russian nesting dolls so popular in this part of the world.


The other gift was a Little People farm set with a tractor, cow and cute little farm girl in a pink dress.  That was not good for much except gnawing on the girl and cows feet, so we mostly stuck with the stacking bowls.

Snacktime was the usual frenzy of hunting for Cheerios and clawing onto the juice cup for dear life.  In this video, you can catch a few glimpses of her happy smiles when we managed to pry the cup off of her face.


Our final accomplishment of the day was trying to take a mommy/daddy/daughter shot of the three of us since we don't have any yet.  There was no one in the room to help, and we didn't have a tripod, so we improvised using a nearby desk, and continuous shooting mode on the camera to take 10 shots in 10 seconds and hope one would come out good.  Jenny proceeded to be a wriggling worm the whole time resulting in some comical shots.  Here is the closest we got.  See the album link for some other interesting iterations.

From Adoption Trip 1

In other news, our travel is all booked and confirmed for returning home next week, and for Trip 2 that will commence with 4 days of being home.  Can't wait to see our family and home.  Feels like we have been away forever.  Can't wait to get our little Christmas gift and baby New Year all wrapped in one home to the family.

Tuesday, December 7, 2010

Stacking cups are fun!

It's late, were tired - not a lot of energy to blog here.  We had an afternoon visit because Jenny had something going on in the morning.  (What, we do not know).

Of all the toys and books we brought, the stacking cups are definitely the biggest hit (as they were for our little guy from Ethiopia).


Julia Stacking Cups from Tom Lococo on Vimeo.

That's all for tonight!

Monday, December 6, 2010

We have a court date!

Not as early as we had hoped, but we have a court date and time.  This Friday the 10th at 11am.  Our little buddy was so happy, she sang us this song.

Julias Song from Tom Lococo on Vimeo.

There were other good signs today as well.  When we came in they had her sitting on the floor in he middle of the room.  She made signs to Patty to pick her up, and when she did, there were lots of hugs and kisses to go around.  On this, our tenth visit, she seems to be recognizing us some.

The visit was rather short because of the time we spent at the courthouse signing documents and getting things ready for court.  During the playtime that followed we got some more serious shots of her to counterbalance the wacky side demonstrated above.


And then there was this....
With that tonsillectomy to leave you with, we can say this.

The end of Trip 1 is in sight.  Trip 2 will be following on very closely.  With the Lord's blessing, this little angel will be celebrating New Years with a new family in a new country.